By Isabella Capulong
Do teenagers know what true love really is? A lot of people have their own opinions on teenage couples, even teens themselves. Some people think it’s puppy love instead of real love, while others will argue that it’s real. But many may disagree because they don’t believe young people, who are still trying to figure out themselves, are ready for a relationship.
Some teenagers know what true love is, but not all. We all think and mature differently, along with showing affection and care for our partner. But maybe it’s not in the way we think.
“I definitely think [some] teenagers know what love is, but not all. Though the word is thrown around a lot,” Certified Wellness Coach Ms. Lynn Hoyle said on the subject.
Even some teenage couples’ love can be unrequited to one another. You can show all your affection and love to your partner, and they may show you none. Which is why this topic is important–you can think that someone loves you, but in reality they may not. Young love is fun, but it can also be hurtful. Us kids are still trying to learn to love, which could sometimes affect the outcome of the teenage couples. You can think your someone is the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, but while you reminisce those thoughts, they can be the reality-check to your fantasy. The truth is, “fewer than 2 percent of people marry their high school sweetheart, and when teens do get married, only about half of them make it to their 10-year anniversary, ” says Dr Amanda Ferguson, psychologist and host of the podcast Psych for Life. In other words, while these relationships can feel like the fantasy life you always wanted, behind closed doors, the opposite may be true. And when those doors open, and truth is revealed, your fantasy falls apart.
But that is unfortunately part of the deal. A CDC study reported the average “steady romantic relationship” in high school typically lasts six months for 16-year-olds and about a year for 17- and 18-year-olds.
“It takes a lot of effort to be in a strong relationship and takes a lot of communication but in general relationships can be challenging,” Ms. Lynn further explained.
All that said, everybody has their own ups and downs within any relationship, yet that shouldn’t limit a person’s feelings; whether old or young, short of tall, true love comes within the heart. What I’m getting to is, finding true love isn’t expected in a certain age bracket. So pursue that certain someone who makes you feel those butterflies and makes you blush, because you would never know who your true love is until you try.
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